I will never claim to speak for the ENTIRE t-girl or crossdressing or non-binary or transgender community.
I will never try to either. I think it’s insane to think that anyone COULD or that anyone DOES.
I do write about a lot of different things. My writings generally fall into a few different categories of fashion (not that I think I am fashionable, but I love writing about clothes and doing reviews), activism (mostly legislation targeting or protecting the trans community) advice (or my attempt at it), and just random thoughts.
What I write about is an effort to be helpful or relatable. I know it’s a little shallow to write 800 words about shoes but I like to think raving about a stiletto is relatable to some of us. Writing about thoughts I have when I am out en femme, whether it is being paranoid of being seen by someone or reflecting on how scared and brave I feel can also be relatable.
At the same time there are worlds of things I don’t write about when it comes to identifying as transgender. I don’t talk about side effects of estrogen or how lengthy of a process it is to work with an insurance company in regards to gender confirming surgery. These subjects are important but I have zero experience in these examples so I let more knowledgeable people handle these topics.
I also know that no matter what I write about I will, well, annoy some of you. When I write about lingerie I get emails about how shallow I am. When I write about laws that negatively impact the trans community the emails ask me to stop being depressing and to write about lingerie.
The point is that I don’t try to make everyone happy. I am not intentionally trying to anger anyone, either. I just write about whatever I am thinking about or feeling or doing and move on.
This isn’t to say comments and emails aren’t helpful when it comes to shaping my website, mind you. I love (constructive) feedback.
However, I do wonder from time to time wonder if I am missing the point, or rather, missing A point.
What I mean is that sometimes when I write about, oh, I don’t know, how much I love panties, sometimes I get emails that tell me I am trivializing the life of a trans woman. On the flip side I’ll blog about how exhausting it can be to see so many laws that are an attempt to hurt the transcommunity and soon I get emails that tell me that crossdressing is supposed to be fun and I shouldn’t focus on legislation that allows a doctor to refuse medical care to someone like us.
Again, there’s nothing I can write about that makes everyone happy and it would be foolish and dishonest (to myself) if I were to try.
Does anyone ever visit this site and think to themselves that I am completely missing the point of something? Or that I write about being bi-gender but never talk about an aspect that impacts you?
If so, drop me a line or comment below.