Hi Hannah, I do crossdress a little myself but being an older person it’s very difficult so most is done behind close doors or under my male clothes. This really frustrates me but it keeps me safe I guess, I am also a very avid admirer of crossdressers and I have no fears of going out with someone for a drink, coffee, etc.
I understand you are married but my question is do crossdressers like male attention or are they simply not looking for admirers.
I know this is a vast question as everyone may and probably will have a different answer but I was just looking for a general answer.
The general answer is ‘maybe’.
It depends on the person. And it likely depends on the kind of attention.
I can’t speak for anyone else, but I am pretty sure I am not alone in how I feel. I don’t want any attention specifically from men. What I mean is that I dress for myself, I exist for myself. If I get attention from anyone, regardless of their gender, well, that’s really out of my control.
When men do approach me, either in real life or virtually, I am highly skeptical and wary. Yes, they may be nice and they might be a gentleman, but in my experience it doesn’t take long for most men (please note that I said MOST, not all) to reveal their true intentions.
And we all know what those intentions are.
Whether it is fair or not, whether it is the reality or not, men pursuing transgender women tend to be thought of as chasers, men who fetishize transwomen. Fetishizing someone is not that different, in my opinion, to objectifying them.
That being said, there are many femme-presenting non-binary people who do want attention from men. And for some, the desired attention is indeed intimate. For some girls, attention from men can be very validating to their gender identity and gender presentation. Some girls want to experience EVERYTHING that many cisgender women experience, and that includes being intimate with men.
Every girl is different when it comes to her preferred interactions with men. And this preference is almost always based on her previous experience with men. I know that not every man is creepy but there are enough men who create very uncomfortable moments with women (putting it lightly) that it’s not a surprise that most women are very skeptical and wary (again, putting it lightly) when it comes to all men.
Putting it a different way, if one dog bit you, you would very likely be very cautious, apprehensive, and nervous about EVERY dog for the rest of your life.
Love, Hannah
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It does amaze me how women can live with a high percentage of men. I don’t want any attention from men when out enfemme. I am usually around women when out and about due to the nature of the placers/stores I go to… Mary Jo
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I crave the attention of women when I’m out en femme. I want acknowledgement that my presentation is tasteful, feminine, and well- accessorized from those who have been socially rewarded for having such expertise. Women dress pretty for themselves and for each other ten times more than they dress to appeal to men and this skirt enthusiast feels the same.
Angie
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If you’re attracted to men, you probably enjoy it. If not, well…. I have met some of the girls who like men, they do exist and are delighted to entertain the right man.
It doesn’t bother me when I’m politely chatted up and they graciously accept my turning them down. It’s the ones who absolutely need being hit over the head with a metaphorical dictionary to understand the initial no doesn’t mean anything else. And the leaden-brained cavemen who decide to stalk you during your day absolutely need something much more solid hitting them (the last guy who attempted this and “surprised” me in front of an armoury and a group of nearby soldiers will always remember that day)
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What you write is indeed true. I met you in person as you finished setting up your booth at Minneapolis Pride a few years ago. You were dressed en femme and I was in drab. From reading your blog for several years, I recognized you instantly. I introduced myself as Abby and said that I enjoyed your blog. Your reaction was exactly as you describe, highly skeptical and wary. I had never before seen that much skepticism and fear in anyone’s eyes upon initially meeting them in a public setting. This was even more astonishing because you are taller and clearly physically stronger than I am. This meeting was too awkward for any further words, so I quickly retreated into the crowd. I immediately made straight for the exits, left the park, and never returned.
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A few years ago at Pride, a masculine-presenting person came up to me and wordlessly wrapped his arms around me, pulled me close, and did not let go. I squirmed away and he ran off. To this day I can recall the moment and what he looked like. I am always on edge at Pride. I am sorry if I was rude and awkward (being awkward is my default personality).
Love, Hannah
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