The monarch butterfly can be found around milkweed plants, if you wanted to find one.

As beautiful as we are, girls like us are not like butterflies.

What I mean is that there is not a specific place to find us. One of the most common questions I am asked is where does someone go to meet a crossdresser or a t-girl? If I am asked this question by a chaser, I ignore them. We are not your goddamn fetish. If this question is asked by a girl like me, then it’s a little different.

It’s so important to have support and to know others like us. It’s pretty normal to feel alone and to think that there is no one on the planet that is like us, but that is simply not the case.

But where do you find others like us? If you are looking for support, I encourage you to find a local chapter of PFLAG. Crossdresser Heaven also has a pretty impressive list of resources. An LGBTQI+ nightclub or bar is also a pretty typical place to meet a girl like us.

But if the bar scene isn’t for you (and it’s not my scene), then what are your options? To be honest, it’s not like we all hang out at designated places. There are places I go to but I don’t necessarily shop there because of my gender identity. I go to Starbucks and Target because I need coffee and I need… Target stuff, but I don’t go to these places because I expect to see other t-girls. I go to museums and book stores, but to be honest, I rarely see other girls like me.

And even if I did, I would never approach someone that I thought was trans. You probably shouldn’t either.

If you are looking to make friends, then the internet is going to be your best bet. Transgender Heaven and Crossdressers.com are two of the best and most active forums out there.

Girls like us are everywhere… but we are probably in boy mode. When I go grocery shopping it’s not likely the cashier knows about my gender identity, just like I don’t know theirs.

Be safe.

Love, Hannah

8 thoughts on “Butterflies

  1. So true it’s nice to find support but I’ve found just going out and being me has been ok.
    I’ve never seen a negative reaction that I noticed anyway
    I’m sure behind my back when I’m not looking it’s possible.
    Hey I’m going on 60 I really don’t care what they think anyway.
    I’m just me


    1. Hi Rach. You just go out and have fun girl. I myself really do not care what others think. I live for ME. I enjoy going out en femme. Others take to pills, drugs, booze. If they like it, that’s their business. But I dont do those things. I take great care of myself. I use Natasha to escape the everyday stress. When I am Natasha I am a very happy girl.

      Also what you said. “I am 60, I really dont care what they think anyways.” That was great… My mother is 68. She just let’s it out. Shes like i am 68. I can say what ever i want. I earned it !!!


      1. Thanks Natasha, yeah I never liked bar scene either and was never really able to find a good CD group to go with
        I actually started a support TG group at a church that met once a month but it no longer meets for various reasons.
        But I did enjoy lots of acceptance with them. It was refreshing being my girl self with them


  2. Hi Hanna
    It’s a sad world we have. There are many sick people out there. I am like you. I wont do bars. We have a huge CD-LGBT club hers but I haven’t gone yet. That’s not really my thing.
    I like antique shopping with my mother. It’s always a good time.
    Shopping at malls. It just hard. My CD group here closed. It’s so sad.. Stay Safe Hanna.


  3. You are an amazing person. While our end game may be different, I have many of the same feelings. Thank you so much for sharing❤️


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