It used to be that buying lingerie was always a complete shot in the dark. I would see something cute and have no idea if it would fit or not. But as I’ve said in the past, crossdressing takes time, money, and patience. As time passed I became smarter about my body and took my measurements.
I began to understandthe differences between a medium for cismen and a medium for ciswomen. I learned to buy lingerie for the size I was, not the size I thought I was (or wanted to be). I also became smarter about checking things like the gusset to make sure it was, well, wide enough to cover my, ah, feminine flaw.
I heart lingerie so much. It was the first femme clothing I was enthralled with all those years ago. Even today it’s a way I can be connected to my femme side when I am in male mode. Wearing a matching bra and panty (and garter belt and stockings!) under a suit is a wonderful way to get through a MAN DAY, if you follow.
Lingerie can be expensive and usually can’t be tried on (or returned) so it can usually be a risk to drop money on a cute set and praying that it fits. Luckily there are options for a girl like us. Google “lingerie for men” and you’ll find many options from Xdress, Homme Mystere, Moot, Glamour Boutique, The Breast Form Store, and En Femme.
All of these businesses sell lingerie for girls like us. Wider gussets, a larger selection of sizes, and bras that have pocket inserts for breast forms. Twenty year old me would have been blown away by the options we have now. I still am.
Some might say that lingerie designed to fit men misses the point. And yes, I can see that and to some degree I agree. But at the end of the day (actually, at the start of the day), I want panties that fit. There’s nothing really more frustrating or uncomfortable than, well, falling out of your panties as you go through your day. Most of the panties I wear are “for girls” but I have quite a bit of panties and lingerie made for girls (and boys) like us.
“Panties for men” tend to be more expensive, of course. When I shopped at Victoria’s Secret it was so easy to add to my panty drawer(s) with their 5 panties for $30 sales. Shopping at Xdress or any of the other designers I mentioned can be a bit of a sticker shock if you are used to shopping at the mall for panties. Bear in mind that these designers are very much catering to a niche market, are independent businesses, and don’t have the ability to compete with Victoria’s Secret in terms of volume or price point. I believe in supporting small businesses and I happily order (and wear) lingerie from independent designers. Another reason I like shopping with designers who make lingerie for girls like us is that, well, it’s super cute and super femme. The designers seem to know what I want not only in terms of practicality but also in terms of style and look. It’s easy to find panties from Homme Mystere with bows and lace on them.
What do you think? Do you care if you lingerie is designed for someone like us?