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Identity can shift over time, but it can also shift throughout the day. I once identified as a crossdresser but transgender is a better fit for me now.
But I still crossdress, even though I don’t identify as such.
What I mean is that both crossdressing and being transgender have the commonality of being assigned male at birth and wearing clothes that are typically considered to be “girl clothes”.
So, how does that work?
It comes down to how I present myself at the time.
On Saturday I was wearing a cute minidress and chunky platform heels. My makeup was amazing and my hair was cooperating for once. I was, obviously, presenting as femme.
But I am typing this the very next day and my makeup is gone, my face isn’t as smooth as it was the day before, and I am wearing a satin, pink nightie. I am, objectively, presenting as masculine but wearing girl clothes.
When I am presenting as femme, I am a trangender girl. When I am presenting as male while wearing “girl clothes”, I am crossdressing.
In both instances I am wearing girl clothes, but the difference is how the rest of me looks.
But this is my perspective on gender identity and gender terminology. You may feel and think and identify differently.
I hope you like the article and the second part will be up soon. If you have thoughts on this writing, please comment on The Breast Form Store’s site so they know people are reading their articles.
Love, Hannah
Hannah McKnight 
Personally I tend to not make a difference between ‘crossdresser’ and ‘transgender’. That seems to bother some people, but I really think it’s a spectrum. Not a question of kind but of degree. I just see ‘crossdresser’ as low on the trans gender spectrum.
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You make it sound so simple, but it doesn’t feel quite so straightforward to me!
I enjoy wearing women’s underwear, lingerie and other women’s clothes (including dresses, heels, skirts, etc), but I don’t normally try to look like a woman. I dress up because emotionally I find it exciting, arousing and stress relieving. By your metric, that is crossdressing, and, therefore, that would make me a crossdresser. That’s fine, and straight forward enough, but sometimes I also take things further by trying to look as femme as possible (with the inclusion of makeup and a wig, etc). But doing this has nothing to do with my gender identity. When I endeavour to look like a woman, I don’t actually feel like a woman, nor do I want to. I’m happy being a man, no matter how I’m dressed, I just feel all of the emotional benefits I describe above, but to a heightened degree. Therefore, I don’t feel that I am transgender either.
I’m not sure what that really makes me, but being described as a crossdresser doesn’t feel like it’s quite enough and being described as transgender feels way too much. To me the commonly available options covering this subject feel binary, and not inclusive of the nuances I describe.
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Yes, it does sound pretty straight forward but the further you travel on yourjourney, the more of a perspective you’ll gain. Things sometimes become clearer.
Or not. We are all individuals with different thoughts and desires and feelings, and for some gender identity is very much entwined with presentation. Others, not so much.
I do understand what you mean by ‘crossdresser’ isn’t enough but ‘transgender’ is. I felt that way too but eventually settled on bi-gender.
Lovr, Hannah
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