As I’m sure you’ve seen, there’s been a lot of ‘Ask Hannah‘ questions lately. I love getting them and I hope you enjoy reading them.
It’s pretty clear we are all doing some soul-searching and deep thinking and reflection these days. I know I am. For some of us we are thinking about our gender identity and what this side of us means to us. It’s clear this side means a lot to us all.
Reflection is a good thing. It’s good to reexamine our lives from time to time and evaluate what we want. I urge caution when it comes to making major decisions when it comes to our gender identity during a pandemic. Some of us are spending more time en femme as we shelter in place. Some of us are spending less time. When we have experiences with something, we realize how important those experiences are. If we have more of them, we may realize we want even more. When we have less, we may realize that we actually need them.
Regardless if we are spending more time or less time en femme or even underdressing, we are probably thinking about what this side of us means and how we want this side of us to be present in our lives. Again, this is good, but it’s also important we are aware of being influenced by the pink fog.
Essentially, the pink fog is when we make decisions influenced by our love and connection to our femme selves that we may not have thought through. Since we are under a lot of stress and change, fear and uncertainty, this is probably not the time to make any permanent changes. This is probably not the time to start hormones, now is probably not the time to transition. Before we make any decisions, whether or not we are under a global pandemic, it’s essential we do these things under the guidance of a gender therapist or a doctor.
And I get it. I am itching to get back in touch with my femme life. I miss Hannah. I’ve been spending a lot more than usual ondresses and lingerie and shoes, so I am not immune to the pink fog, either. I’m wanting to have “the talk” with friends in my life about all of this, but I have to tell myself to slow down, pump the brakes, and wait until things calm down a little before I make any choices.